What To Do When You and Your Spouse Disagree About Homeschooling

It’s a difficult situation to be in. You want to homeschool your children and your spouse believes it is best to send them to a traditional school. What do you do?


Prayer is the best weapon you have when disagreements enter into your marriage. It’s easy to pray for your spouse’s opinion to change but an even better prayer is for unity in your marriage as you make decisions for your family. Pray that the Lord’s will would be done and that you and your spouse would come to a peaceful agreement. Also, ask your spouse if they’d be open to praying together about the educational choices available to your family.

Offer Your Opinion

Find a time when your spouse is not preoccupied with other tasks and ask if you could share your reasons for wanting to homeschool. Don’t attack their views. Only share the reasons why you believe homeschooling is the best option for your family. It might be useful to write down all your reasons before hand so you don’t forget anything.

Listen to Their Opinion and Address Their Concerns

It’s important that you and your spouse both have the opportunity to voice your desires and concerns. Take time to ask your spouse to share the reasons they have for not wanting to homeschool and then listen quietly. Don’t interrupt or argue with them while they are talking. If you have some input to share regarding their opinions then jot them down and address them after your spouse has had the opportunity to share his or her concerns with you.

Don’t Let It Cause Conflict

I think homeschooling is an excellent option for families but I don’t want to see it cause division in a marriage. The best thing for your children is to have two parents who are working together in unity to raise them. Your marriage is more important than whether or not your family homeschools. Don’t let homeschooling become an unresolved conflict in your marriage.

Trust God

As you pray and communicate with your spouse about homeschooling, trust God and rest in His sovereign plan for your family.

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